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Trust. The non-negotiable

You can work with people you don't like. Heck, I've done it before. It was not pleasant and I would not do it again if given the choice. I was surprised that we were able to not kill each other and get work done. Honestly, I was even surprised that we could accomplish the things we did.   

Many factors can contribute to this: 

  1. Having a common goal 
  2. Having a common fear

Are the two main factors that spring to mind. As the saying goes: "The enemy of my enemy is my friend."

But if you don't have trust. Forget it! Walk away from the deal immediately.

All it takes is for the other party to show up late for a meeting, take your parking space and sit in your chair and all bets are off.

However, when you are in a situation like that there are a few things that you need to remember. 

  • You may not have control of the other person's actions, but you can control your actions towards them
  • What exactly is it about them that gets under your skin? Learn to identify it so that you can avoid doing it to others
  • Look for common ground while you are with them. It will at least help pass the time. (Breathing air...That's common right?) 

Which leads me to my last point. Try and have a sense of humor about it. The people who are also suffering along side you because of this person could end up being some of your best friends. 

But the bottom-line is without trust as a foundation stone, you've got nothing to build on. Walk away as soon as possible. 

Question: 

What is your non-negotiable when working with a partner?